Friday Fable. Aesop’s “THE MAN AND THE SATYR”*

Posted by jlubans on August 28, 2015

Caption: Illustration by ARTHUR RACKHAM, 1912.

“A Man and a Satyr became friends, and determined to live together. All went well for a while, until one day in winter-time the Satyr saw the Man blowing on his hands. ‘Why do you do that?’ he asked. ‘To warm my hands,’ said the Man. That same day, when they sat down to supper together, they each had a steaming hot bowl of porridge, and the Man raised his bowl to his mouth and blew on it. ‘Why do you do that?’ asked the Satyr. ‘To cool my porridge,’ said the Man. The Satyr got up from the table. ‘Good-bye,’ said he, ‘I'm going: I can't be friends with a man who blows hot and cold with the same breath.’”

Isn’t this just how some friendships come to an end, over some inane misunderstanding? The man “blows hot and cold”, so the satyr abandons the friendship. Why does he not accept that the same action might be the result of two different causes?
A long time friend of mine ceased being a friend. Why, I have no reason. Was it me or was it a series of things that resulted in his turning away?
Maybe the man in the fable should have said to the satyr something like, “Are you serious? You want to quit being friends because I blow on my hands and on my soup, an easily explainable behavior?”
May not make any difference, but worth a try.

*Source: AESOP'S FABLES A NEW TRANSLATION BY V. S. VERNON JONES WITH AN INTRODUCTION By G. K. CHESTERTON AND ILLUSTRATIONS BY ARTHUR RACKHAM (Publisher: London: W. Heinemann; New York: Doubleday, Page & Co., 1912). Available at Gutenberg.

© John Lubans 2015

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Posted by Evangela on August 28, 2015  •  14:17:28

The person who walks away has a responsibility to tell the "friend" about any grievance. When friendships are valued, people generally work to understand the other party. If your friend ceased communication without saying why, then perhaps you were never friends. Then, too, they may have some type of mental illness. It's hard to say. One thing I know: one-sided relationships rarely last.

Posted by jlubans on August 29, 2015  •  11:01:25

Not sure why some people do not let you know what's bugging them. Or, like you say, it could be something personal and nothing to do with the friendship. And, what I thought was a deep friendship might be only something superficial for the friend. "Such is life", according to the Australian desperado and folk hero, Ned Kelly.

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